Watching more films
Jan. 29th, 2019 05:17 pmSo, in the past few months, I’ve watched two films with similar stories and themes - The Miseducation of Cameron Post, and just the other night, Boy Erased. Both deal with a young queer person forced into the horrors of conversion therapy by parents who are determined to ‘make them straight.’ But they are rather different in tone.
In The Miseducation of Cameron Post, Cameron, the young woman at the heart of the story, is relatively unconflicted about her sexuality. No matter what her parents or the ‘counsellors’ at the Christian conversion camp think, she like girls, and she enjoys it. Though her belief in herself is temporarily shaken when she learns that her lover, Coley, has renounced her and their relationship, she manages to recover her sense of who she is despite the pressures around her. Her story is one of surviving the abusive bullshit dumped on her - which, sadly some other ‘participants’ don’t - until she manages, with some other proudly unrepentant teens, to escape and begin her own life.
The main character in Boy Erased, Jarod Eamons, has a more complicated road to travel. Again, a same-sex encounter that his parents discover results in his being placed into conversion therapy by his parents, but Jarod is more uncertain of his sexuality, wants to earn the love of his parents, and has been influenced by the profoundly Christian manner of his upbringing. As well, an early experience with another boy was, we learn later on, traumatic in a way that not only gives him reason to question his gayness, but also to be forced to confront massive trust issues with his parents, particularly his father.
The ‘therapy’ program is, like all these programs, abusive and carries the potential to deeply harm participants, even if they weren’t already struggling with sexuality and rejection by parents and family, church, and society.
Finally Jarod escapes, through the support of his mother, who has come to the realisation that if she must choose between her son and her church as she’s always believed in it, she chooses her son.
It’s a far more nuanced film, and one that shows not only Jarod’s coming to terms with himself and the trauma he experiences from multiple sources, but also a journey toward understanding for his mother, and even, at the end, a chance that his father can grow beyond his religious prejudices.
I’m glad to have seen both films, and hope that soon, no one will ever again have stories to tell about the abuses of gay conversion programs.
In The Miseducation of Cameron Post, Cameron, the young woman at the heart of the story, is relatively unconflicted about her sexuality. No matter what her parents or the ‘counsellors’ at the Christian conversion camp think, she like girls, and she enjoys it. Though her belief in herself is temporarily shaken when she learns that her lover, Coley, has renounced her and their relationship, she manages to recover her sense of who she is despite the pressures around her. Her story is one of surviving the abusive bullshit dumped on her - which, sadly some other ‘participants’ don’t - until she manages, with some other proudly unrepentant teens, to escape and begin her own life.
The main character in Boy Erased, Jarod Eamons, has a more complicated road to travel. Again, a same-sex encounter that his parents discover results in his being placed into conversion therapy by his parents, but Jarod is more uncertain of his sexuality, wants to earn the love of his parents, and has been influenced by the profoundly Christian manner of his upbringing. As well, an early experience with another boy was, we learn later on, traumatic in a way that not only gives him reason to question his gayness, but also to be forced to confront massive trust issues with his parents, particularly his father.
The ‘therapy’ program is, like all these programs, abusive and carries the potential to deeply harm participants, even if they weren’t already struggling with sexuality and rejection by parents and family, church, and society.
Finally Jarod escapes, through the support of his mother, who has come to the realisation that if she must choose between her son and her church as she’s always believed in it, she chooses her son.
It’s a far more nuanced film, and one that shows not only Jarod’s coming to terms with himself and the trauma he experiences from multiple sources, but also a journey toward understanding for his mother, and even, at the end, a chance that his father can grow beyond his religious prejudices.
I’m glad to have seen both films, and hope that soon, no one will ever again have stories to tell about the abuses of gay conversion programs.