The aspect of realising that one is queer is an interesting part of this process for me. I knew I was "different" pretty early - my first love affair with someone of the same sex for me came when I was 12, although the whole thing of finding both boys and girls attractive made it pretty hard to figure out my orientation, becasue back then virtually no one even thought that there was such a thing as being bi. And I was bi from the beginning, no process of first one thing and then the other - I had sexual fantasies about male and female comic book heroes when I was five, so it started very early.

But I wasn't really conscious of what that meant - difference - until I was closer to adolescence, and I didn't figure out how I wanted to identify until I was in my 20s. But I can't say for sure if I was always accepting of queerness becausee I knew I was queer for an early age, or if being accepting of being queer at a very early age made it easy for me to feel good about realising I wasn't straight for the beginning.